This is my Fo Jing, told to me by a Buddha-of-a-friend. (that night got yellow holy light shining out of my handphone)
Here goes:
Everyone is made out to be weak in something and strong in another.
You can't strong at everything and you also won't be weak in everything.
Focus on what you are strong at. This will give you more confidence and allow you to play better.
There is a difference between saying:
"Winning and losing doesn't matter to me - i don't care if i win or lose" which is negative and;
"Winning and losing doesn't matter - so long as I have done my best, therefore the statement" which is positive.
If you keep telling yourself, "winning doesn't mean anything to me", then when you lose u will still feel the guilt because you know you haven't put in any effort to make the best out of the game.
And if you lose because of this, you will always use this excuse that, 'Oh, it's because i don't like competition what, so lose also never mind lor...'
If you tell yourself to focus on what you are strong at and make the best out of it, then even when you lose, you can proudly tell yourself that you have "given my best and I have no regrets at all" (William Hung, 2004)
Bottomline is: if the coach puts you in a game, you just play it and play it well. If you play it well, other people can see. (And that makes "losing" a little easier to swallow. Hahaha)
I want to buy flourescent paint and paint these words onto my ceiling.. so when i turn out the lights, these words will shine down on me and enlighten me all over again everynight. =)
Thanks Kailin and shuping for the long long talk. 0307. This is the time when we hung up. 0307. This is the duration of our conversation. This may be a coincidence. Haha. But our friendship is definitely not a coincidence~!
OKay now for what happened today! Waaaaaa.... I was a road victim for the first day of school!!! It all happaned in the morning... I received a call from a friend.
"Hey! My dad can fetch us to school leh! U want a ride?"
Ok... so i accepted the kind offer and went downstairs to meet this friend. As I rushed into the car, i didn't realise something. MY FRIEND WAS IN THE DRIVER'S SEAT!!! SHEEEEEEEYTTTE!!! And becoz the father was also in the car, I didn't dare to get off liao...
Okay alot of farni things happened on the way out of carpark and on the way to school la. TOok FIVE minutes to get out of my F - shaped carpark! I'm amazed I didn't throw up on the way out...
once we reached the bus stop at dover, this friend asked me, "So, what do you think of my driving?"
I JI TOU BURST OUT LAUGHING LARRR!
Maaan.. i woke up bright and early for school.. i didn't want to be late for first day leh... wanted a clean record this final few weeks... ok ok, at least for this week la... then thanks to this friend! washed down the drain liao! Hey, I really appreciate you giving me a ride la. BUT NOT ON THE FIRST DAY OF SCHOOL AND IN THE MORNING PEAK HOUR AND WITHOUT ANY WARNING MAN! AHAHAHAHAHAHA =D Please tell me in advance next time (so i can reject your offer). Thanks for sending me to school safely today.
I have never been soooo happy to reach school before.
